Should You Engage in a Unicorn Relationship? Ask Yourself These Questions

Sure, it can be intimidating to share intimate information with people you’ve recently met. Take it slow, and give yourself the time to feel comfortable in communicating clearly. There’s no rush to jump into bed, and if there is, you might want to ask yourself why—it could be that you’re having second-thoughts, and you should take those feelings seriously.

It’s also important to consider that everything can change in the heat of the moment. Jealousies can flare unexpectedly and people can change their minds. Hopefully, you’ll have communicated enough prior to avoid that, but check in with each other periodically to make sure everyone is still on the same page.

Ask yourself, If something happens that I don’t like, will I speak up? The answer should be a resounding, “Hell yes.”

Regardless of how adventurous or open-minded you might feel about sex, feeling pressure from societal stigmas or traditional expectations can be a total buzzkill. Even though this isn’t an experience that you have to run and tell all of your friends and family about and there’s nothing wrong with having secrets, you still need to figure out if you, personally, will feel any shame or guilt around it.

Sarah encourages prospective unicorns to tell a close friend whenever they’re going on any dates with couples. It’s a safety precaution that’s important in any type of dating — so don’t let embarrassment keep you from taking that precaution as a unicorn. You don’t need to go into specifics, but do what you need to do to feel safe.

Ultimately, communication and honesty are the two most important ingredients to a successful unicorn experience; both with the couple, and with yourself. The good news? Once you’ve sorted those things out, you can focus on how crazy hot this will be. Exploring our sexual fantasies allows us to develop self-awareness that makes us all better, healthier, and sexier partners.

With that in mind, go break down some sexual barriers—for yourself and for the greater good, you magical creature, you.