If You Don't See a Future in a Relationship, Should You Continue to Be In One?

BB and I recently came to the sad realization that neither of us see this relationship working in the long-term. We both love each other a ton, and have a lot of fun, but feel we don't click on some very important issues, which makes it hard to see an us' in the future. If we don't see a future, should we pursue the present?

This came up after a tiff over our personality differences. Sometimes I can be a little too uptight, and sometimes he can be too reckless. I had hoped we'd be able to find a happy medium and balance each other out, but sometimes we both feel like we have nothing to talk about.

I know some of my frequent readers may be surprised by this news. Things seemed to be going swimmingly, and yeah, there is a lot of good stuff there. We both have fun, friendly, go-getter personalities. We both work in publishing. We both love to eat, watch movies, be outside and are definitely not homebodies. There is a lot of affection and love between us, but we both worry that's not enough.

So while we haven't outlined anything in permanent ink, it's definitely on our minds. This weekend is my birthday, and we've agreed to party it up, have fun with each other and just enjoy life. As of today we are still a couple. Hopefully this will figure itself out. We just want to avoid hurt feelings, and we want to stay in each other's lives no matter what. Perhaps we're just better friends than lovers.

I'd love to hear from you readers! Have you ever dated someone you didn't see a future with? Do you still pursue the relationship? Do you think it could eventually turn into something more? Are we being to hard on ourselves trying to click on every level? Help!__