How to Squirt, According to a Record-Holding Squirter and a Neuroscientist

That said, for the purpose of squirting, you should also learn how to get these muscles to relax and elongate. “A surefire way to get relaxation is child’s pose,” Lola Jean says. “Or if you take a deep breath in and a deep breath out afterward, your pelvic floor should naturally reset. But most people don’t really know how to do so or whether they’re doing it correctly, so this is where we can use our finger internally to get that realtime feedback or we can cheat it with our breath.”

3. Spend some time with your perineal sponge. 

Don’t focus solely on the G-spot. Directly south of that is the perennial sponge: an area with a lot of pleasure capabilities that is also responsible for the majority of lubrication of the vagina. Stimulating and exploring this area is one way to test whether you might be capable of squirting. 

“If you hear the splish-splash sound when you’re inside, then you have it within you,” Lola Jean says. “The squirt is there. You just have some figure out how to get it out of your body, especially for people who have been wired to hold it in.”

4. Stimulate your G-spot.

Once you’ve tapped into regular orgasms, the key is prolonged stimulation of the urethral sponge. How does one do that? Build arousal through vigorous and repetitive G-spot stimulation. You can find it by reaching into the vagina (with a sex toy like a vibrator or a finger) while angling up in the direction of your belly. Winston suggests bearing down with your abdominal and pelvic floor muscles as you feel an orgasm approaching.

Doing a come-hither motion with your fingers isn’t the only way (or even the best way) to stimulate your G-spot manually. In class Lola Jean teaches a different approach she's dubbed the motorcycle rev, where you’re rubbing on the G-spot instead of hammering away at it. 

Here’s how to do the motorcycle rev: Insert your middle and ring fingers internally and let them align with the natural curvature of the vagina. Make sure your thumb isn’t poking in an uncomfortable way. Let your index and pinky finger sit just outside your vulva and allow the heel of your hand to rest on your mons, thus creating interaction with the shaft of the clitoris. Whether you rev slowly or quickly is up to you, but either way, you’re moving your fingers but maintaining contact with the G-spot the whole time.  

“I really like this move because it has all these different points of contact with the clit,” Lola Jean says. “We have those two inner fingers internally, the index and the pinky finger are getting parts of the vulva externally, but through the vulva, through the outer labia. And the heel of the hand is on the shaft of the clitoris.”

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How to make a woman squirt 

Lola Jean takes issue with the notion of making someone squirt. Instead, she prefers to think about squirting during partnered sex as an “alleyoop,” where the squirter does most of the work, but their partner knocks it in for the big finish. The most important way someone can assist their partner in squirting is helping to build a lot of arousal, and in turn, a lot of fluid. 

1. Connect with your partner. 

To squirt during partnered sex, connection is everything. More important than the use of any technique is to enhance the quality of the in-the-moment rapport with your partner. Take a tip from tantric practitioners and sit across from your partner and look deeply into their eyes (a huge challenge for most people at first). Savor the experience of breathing in unison, while tuning into the sensations in your body as you feel the breath move in and out. Breathing techniques that activate your pelvic floor can help build heat.

2. Set the scene. 

Light a few candles, arrange some pretty flowers in a vase, scent the air with essential oils—whatever floats your boat; create a space that is alluring. You can also puddle-proof your bed. One of the more common concerns about letting go sufficiently to squirt is the reluctance to get things a bit messy. Standard towels will do in a pinch. But waterproof sex blankets, also known as splash pads or splash blankets, are available from brands like Yoni Pleasure Palace, Squirtopia, Venus Matters, and Liberator. High-volume squirters, however, may find disposable puppy pads more convenient.