Ball gags: Sex toy which arouses feelings, provides premium pain during coitus

If you are into kinky kinds of stuff, ball gags should be on your radar. Ball gags are commonly-used sex toys in the world of BDSM (Bondage, Disciple, Sadism, and Masochism). You must have watched movies where ball gags are used. They may seem sexy and cool. But the truth is if you do not how to use it, you will experience premium pain.

This piece will, therefore, provide you with you all you need to know about ball gags. So, sit tight, grab a bag of popcorn and soft drinks and read. This is going to be an interesting subject.

Table of Content hide 1What is a ball gag? 2Uses of ball gag 2.1To derive erotic pleasure 2.2For humiliation 2.3For control and power 3Safety tips for using a ball gag 3.1Get a mutual consent 3.2Practice a safe word or signal 3.3Never leave a gagged partner alone 3.4Do not use a ball gag if you have a cold 3.5Use other sex toys when you are ready 3.6Wash your ball gag regularly 4Conclusion

What is a ball gag?

Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of online intimacy shop Organic Loven, defines a gag as “a round ball [that can be] made of either rubber, silicone, or plastic. It has two straps that go around the head to secure it. It sits behind the teeth, keeping their mouth open during bondage or other forms of BDSM role play.”

There are two parties in a BDSM – the dominant and the submissive partners. A dominant is a partner that controls a sexual session while a submissive partner will have to agree to be subjected to whatever role the dominant demands from him or her. Now, one would think that ball gags are associated with role plays involving bondage but it is not in all cases. A dominant can be a man or a woman, so also it applies to a submissive.

Therefore, a ball gag is used to restrain the submissive and make them unable to speak or, in some cases, struggle to breathe through their mouth. The ball sits in the submissive’s mouth and causes them to have their mouth forced open at all times. In addition, the submissive may drool uncontrollably and make indiscernible noises like moans and grunts.

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Uses of ball gag

Centuries ago, ball gags were used as a means to keep a patient quiet and give them something to bite down on during surgical procedures. Other uses include to humiliate someone held prisoner, tortured and beaten. These days, ball gags are used for sexual sessions, especially during BDSM.

Let us discuss their uses.

To derive erotic pleasure

The main purpose of ball gags in BDSM is for erotic pleasure for both the dominant and submissive. Combined with other physical restraints, wearing a ball gag can increase the wearer’s sense of helplessness and anxiety level within a BDSM scene. Hence, the wearer is unable to speak during sexual activity, which the participating parties usually enjoy.

For humiliation

Ball gags often connote humiliation and punishment for whoever is wearing it. The submissive is a ‘slave’ and he or she is expected to obey the dominant in every way. One of the effective ways to submit is to be gagged. Hence, the submissive is at the mercy of the dominant.

For control and power

Dominants in BDSM want to control and power over the submissives. Some fetishists are sexually aroused when they hear the sound of the ball gag wearer when they try to speak or when they see them drool uncontrollably. These fetishists have paraphilia – an intense sexual experience in which a person is aroused by atypical objects, situations, fantasies, behaviours or individuals.

An instance of paraphilia is when a captor gags a damsel in distress to prevent her from screaming for help. Note that this is just an enactment or fantasy which can arouse some people with paraphilia even if there is no nudity involved.

Safety tips for using a ball gag

Interested in using ball gags? Here are six important safety tips to get started.

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Get a mutual consent

The most important element in BDSM and ball gags is mutual consent between partners. Talk it out with your partner. Discuss your expectations and what type of sexual activities you can handle. Also, agree on a time limit. About 10 to 15 minutes is enough for a starter. While discussing, let the submissive partner try wearing a ball gag and adjust it until it is comfortable.

Practice a safe word or signal

BDSM with a ball gag can be pretty intense and, sometimes, dangerous. Having a safe word or signal is important so you can communicate that you want your partner to take it easy or stop without interrupting the mood. Using a ball gag limits a partner’s ability to speak, so a non-verbal safe signal is preferable. The wearer can use it to indicate that their partner should stop and remove the ball gag.

Never leave a gagged partner alone

It may not be possible for the gagged partner to be able to remove the ball gag, especially if they are also using other physical restraints. So, you must not leave them alone, in case they need to remove the ball gag.

Do not use a ball gag if you have a cold

By cold, we mean catarrh and cough. These are ailments that often make breathing difficult. Wearing a ball gag will make breathing and choking worse. If you have a cold or sinus infection, avoid using a gag.

Use other sex toys when you are ready

When you are comfortable with ball gags, you might want to experiment with using other restraints or sex toys to enhance sexual pleasure. Sex toys like a blindfold, handcuffs, spankers or nipple clamps go well with ball gags.

Wash your ball gag regularly

Wash your ball gags regularly after use to prevent the growth and transmission of bacteria. Be sure to disinfect it periodically for an extra layer of defence against germs.

Conclusion

Years ago, ball gags and other forms of BDSM were considered sexual pervasion. Now, we live in a world where a lot of practices have become acceptable. Nothing is hidden for long and there is more freedom for one to express one’s self.

Using a ball gag during sex can be an interesting adventure. But you have to follow some safety tips to avoid stories that touch. Ball gags during BDSM are pretty intense, which is why safe signals are important.

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